Manipulation

how to look for signs and stop being manipulated.

When you hear the word ‘manipulation’ the first thought that might come to your mind is something not so pleasant. Detecting manipulation can be a bit difficult sometimes. So I’m writing this article for you to keep the following signs in mind, in case you feel as if someone is trying to manipulate you.

Here are the most common signs of manipulation:

1. They make you seem dumb:

You might have felt dumb at some point in your life but did you know that narcissistic people don’t like to look dumb and would do anything to make you feel bad about yourself. For example, they might try to act too “intelligent” by talking about something you have little to no idea about. If they’re “brave” enough, they might just call you dumb and other names to your face just to feel good about themselves.

2. Guilt tripping:

It’s a form of emotional manipulation and in this case, the manipulator would remind you of some things that you did to make you feel guilty just to get away with the things that they’ve been doing “wrong”. They could also try to remind you of the “nice things” they did for you to get what they want.

3. They do not respect your boundaries:

Whenever you try to make some boundaries, they might just ignore it or might even show disrespect towards the way you feel. For example, your friends want you to do something and that violates your boundaries, instead of respecting your boundaries, they try to make you get involved by saying stuff like “I thought we were friends” and similar phrases like that.

4. Passive aggressive behavior:

It’s a way of expressing negative emotions indirectly. The other person might give you silent treatments or just pass on some sarcastic remarks that might seem offensive. They would show dissatisfaction through their behavior instead of talking things out.

5. They try to get too close too early:

Just imagine that you’ve met someone recently and they start talking about their personal lives without even getting to know you. They start to say stuff like, “You’re my soulmate” without even getting to know who you are as a person. It’s just a way of people to not put in the effort and get something they want.

6. You’re the one who’s always apologizing:

even if it’s not your fault? yes. Manipulators would make you apologize for raising your concerns even though there was no fault of yours to begin with. They’re the one who made you question what’s been going on and they’re the one who made you feel uncomfortable and yet you’re the one who has to apologize at the end of the day.

7. They pretend to “care”:

whenever you try to open up about your problems, they just make it seem like they’re going through a much bigger issue. Instead of giving you the space to vent, they make the whole conversation about themselves and their “problems”. They would never have the time to listen to you; they would never ask you how your day was. Yet they would make it seem like they care by giving you some breadcrumbs.

8. You’re always criticized:

It’s like they can never see the ‘good’ in you. No matter how good you try to be or whatever you say, they would end up criticizing you in an unthinkable way. It’s not your fault.. it’s just that they’re too insecure about the fact that you’re wayy better than them.

Hope you enjoyed reading today’s blog and I hope that this littol info was useful in some way or other. If you’re being manipulated then you must remember that you’re amazing and whatever is happening is outside of your control and you need to cut that person off as soon as you can. Have a nice day ( •̀ ω •́ )✧